I'm starting to think and feel this in my work DC. It seems so foreign and not what I was taught about being a psychologist. It's almost to the point of only giving information or strategies if and when it is absolutely necessary.
I appreciate these lines Daryl:"I've come to begrudgingly appreciate what's required in those moments is a sort of little death inside of me—that is, to let that go. These micro-grievances, seem to ask of me to make room for what is possible to come alive between us." They beautifully express the inevitable juxtaposition of life & death in every moment, every breath. Many spiritual traditions have daily practices which help us remember death. Doing so helps us loosen our grasp on & rigid identification with an impermanent sense of self. If we can be present to the other in a therapy session, we can resonate with what actually is happening, rather than what we think should be happening within us, within them, as well as between us. That's life arising from death.
Great stuff Daryl. As you may expect, this resonates with me a lot. There's a lot I could say, but I'll narrow down to two things that help me with this. First, is opening up and being vulnerable to my client when I'm 'failing'. Second, I very very frequently ask the client clarifying questions - like an optemtrist asking "is it this lense or this lenses that's clearer?" and I'll always tell a client when I'm not following. That way when I do finally speak I'm more like to be concise and 'hit the target'.
I'm starting to think and feel this in my work DC. It seems so foreign and not what I was taught about being a psychologist. It's almost to the point of only giving information or strategies if and when it is absolutely necessary.
I appreciate these lines Daryl:"I've come to begrudgingly appreciate what's required in those moments is a sort of little death inside of me—that is, to let that go. These micro-grievances, seem to ask of me to make room for what is possible to come alive between us." They beautifully express the inevitable juxtaposition of life & death in every moment, every breath. Many spiritual traditions have daily practices which help us remember death. Doing so helps us loosen our grasp on & rigid identification with an impermanent sense of self. If we can be present to the other in a therapy session, we can resonate with what actually is happening, rather than what we think should be happening within us, within them, as well as between us. That's life arising from death.
Great stuff Daryl. As you may expect, this resonates with me a lot. There's a lot I could say, but I'll narrow down to two things that help me with this. First, is opening up and being vulnerable to my client when I'm 'failing'. Second, I very very frequently ask the client clarifying questions - like an optemtrist asking "is it this lense or this lenses that's clearer?" and I'll always tell a client when I'm not following. That way when I do finally speak I'm more like to be concise and 'hit the target'.