Frontiers Friday #78. Grief, Loss & Heartbreak (Part II)
Frontiers Friday #78. Grief, Loss & Heartbreak (Part II)
In part II on the topic of grief, we cover some more recommendations on this topic, particularly on the topic of ambiguous loss. (Here's if you missed it)
✍️ New from my Desk (Full Circles) Befriending Grief
When we lose someone we love, we lose a part of ourselves. Yet, our task is to find a way to befriend grief by apprenticing ourselves to the discipline of waking up.
🎧 Listen: On Being with Krista Tippett with Pauline Boss
Some of you might realise that I'm a huge fan of the radio show/ podcast On Being.
In this partiular episode Krista Tippett interviews Pauline Boss on the topic of ambiguous loss.
I was first introoduced to the topic of ambiguous loss by my long-time supervisor/mentor Juliana Toh. I wished I paid more much attention to this topic earlier on.
👓 Read: Loss, Trauma, and Resilience: Therapeutic Work With Ambiguous Loss
If the podcast episode in #2 intrigues you, consider reading Pauline Boss' book.
👓 Read: Remembering Lives by Lorraine Hedtke & John Winslade
Written based off the tradition of narrative therapy, this was a pivotal book in helping me language my thoughts––and even challenge our held assumptions like "moving on"––into the conversation of therapy, while attempting to behold and be-with someone in the face heartrending loss.
⏸ Words Worth Contemplating:
Change is Loss ~ Lori Gottlieb
p/s: Please give a moment to the people of Ukraine. Our thoughts and prayers goes with you.
Reflection:
Why is change so difficult?
One of the reasons is because when we approach the threshold of our frontier––to grow, to develop to change and even to accept––we are called to experience the loss of not just the old ways, but the old me.
As you work with your clients through change, honor the loss before entering into new territories.
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