Frontiers Friday #67. Play-Pause Exercise
Frontiers Friday #67. The Play-Pause Exercise
In the last post, Develop Good Taste, I talked about the benefits of listening to how others work. More specifically, employing the principles of deliberate practice and learning sciences, I argue for a need to listen in a certain way to other therapist work, in a way that actually causes dis-fluency i.e., disrupting your usual pattern of listening.
Here’s a summary of the 6-Steps I’ve highlighted:
1. PLAY –> 2. PAUSE –> 3. ACT
4. PLAY–> 5. REFLECT –> 6. SYNTHESISE
A few days ago, I was pleasantly surprised to read couples therapist and author Esther Perel’s newsletter. Here’s snippets of what she said:
It was a bad therapy day. We were recording a one-time anonymous session for my podcast “Where Should We Begin,” but by the end of it, I was convinced the material was unusable. The recently married, early 30s, white American couple (and new parents) sitting across from me were bickering to no end.
Familiar to her work and specifically to her Podcast Where Shall We Begin(big fan), I was intrigued. I mean, how bad could it be? Besides, she embodied a style that carried the spirit of Salvador Minuchin, who was someone I greatly respect. And more than 15 years ago, I recall a discussion with my clinical supervisor that one of the things I wanted to work on is to be more direct. Perel and Minuchin’s voice helped me to find my own voice…
…So how bad could Perel’s session be?
Perel goes on in her newsletter:
I snapped. They had given me license to be direct—but had I been too direct? Had my reaction been inappropriate or unhelpful? I cringed at the reality that I would have to hear this failure played back as a podcast episode. I won’t tell you what I said (the tone is perhaps more important), but you can hear it for yourself because, after all that, we decided to release it as an episode anyway
Before you go on to list to this particular podcast episode in this new post, I want you to take this opportunity to invite you to listen in a different way. By employing the 6-step sequence I’ve outlined (more details here), practice listening to yourself AND listen to how Ester Perel engages this couple in consultation. If it helps, use my own inputs and reflects as stimulus to think clearer of your own ideas.
Here's the link to how I use the Play-Pause Exercise with Esther Perel's session: "I Don't Mean to Be Mean But..."
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